The thing about manifesting better in any area of your life, is that things tend to get "worse" before the better actually comes in. This isn't because you are being punished, by any means. It happens because the Universe is bringing all of the thoughts and beliefs that aren't in alignment with what you want into your awareness. All of the funky shit in your subconscious gets pulled to the forefront so it can be addressed. and healed. and shifted. And if you don't know how to deal with this, like many of us don't, you can get discouraged and give up on your manifestations. I call the process of dealing with the shit that comes up, making room for your desires. (I've also created a course to help you with it.)

As I've been working on healing my relationship with men, lots of unhelpful beliefs have been coming up for me. I've been getting rejected. and ignored. and blocked. and just overall not treated very well by my romantic interests. This has helped me to realize so many of the unhelpful beliefs that are still creating my romantic reality. So, I've asked my inner being for affirmations to replace the old shit so I can start allowing in new. And boy-oh-boy (no pun intended), did God come through for me with these affirmations.

The beautiful thing about affirmations is that, as we practice them, the people who are already in our lives can shift and show up for us in different ways, as we've made space for them to. Affirmations also put us in a position where we become powerful, irresistible magnets to the people who we are looking for. We are making space for people to show up differently, or for entirely different people to show up all together. Regardless, we create space for our desires. And that's doing our part in the co-creative process.

I've been showing up in love with a more nonchalant attitude lately. This is different for me because I'm a serious woman and I seriously want a family. Like yesterday. But, things changed when I realized that the guy was coming. No matter what. I realized that no matter what I did, the guy would come. Like Amanda Frances says, I know God wouldn't forget about me. I realized I couldn't fuck this up. I developed the belief that I would always be lovable. I developed the belief that I would always get my desire. Because I understand that my desires are always coming to me, at all times, no matter what. And when the perfect guy for me is coming to me always, at all times, no matter what, things just stopped feeling like pressure. It stopped feeling like worry. It stopped feeling like doubt. It stopped feeling like insecurity.

Because there's no way that my personality would turn off the man made to love me. There's no way that my body would turn off the man made to love me. Understanding this has also been easier because I've developed a new understanding of worthiness and good enough-ness (ooh– there's also a whole module on this profound understanding in my outstanding and transformative course, by the way). There's no way that I could ever do anything to sabotage something made for me. Because men were made for me. My desires were made for me.

Each and every desire of mine is an invitation from God, who created my tastes, in the first place. Why would God inspire me to want something I couldn't have? That's ludicrous. And although God, aka Infinite Intelligence, is notoriously methodical with their madness, they are never, ever ludicrous.

So men love me. And men were made to love me. Because I was made to want to be loved by men. You get it?

This means, I don't have to settle. I get to have everything I want in love. I get to get my needs met in love. And this realization has been comforting over the past few months.

And I show up to romantic interests with the understanding that if it's not him, it'll be someone else. And if it isn't him, even if I am rejected, I'll have learned something about me and where I am, vibrationally. So, it's been a win-win scenario for me.

It's been very interesting because I am being treated so beautifully by men I have no romantic interest in. I am a magnet for amazing, respectful, attentive, men. Things started making lots of sense when I realized that the only difference between the men who were treating me kindly, and the men who weren't, was my romantic interest in them.

It wasn't just about men. I was getting amazing results re: my work tapping into a higher vibration of man. I wasn't getting better results in romance. So it wasn't just my beliefs about men. It was my beliefs about love. It was my beliefs about my emotional needs.

After the most recent romantic shenanigans, I realize I need to be prioritized by my romantic interests. And it's okay to be prioritized. And it's good to be prioritized. And there are men ready, willing, and eager to prioritize me.

I realize now that I'm ready to be prioritized. I'm at a place in my life, and in my business, where I can prioritize making time and room for a man, and his life, in my own life. I'm at a place where I can prioritize time to share my life with another person. I'm ready to prioritize a family. And it (in the most recovering-people-pleasing-way possible) never occurred to me that I needed to be prioritized like I prioritize others.

I didn't understand that attracting men who "couldn't" be with me because of their own preoccupations was reflecting back to me that I needed more. It wasn't a "sign" to be more "patient" or to "wait" for a man. It was a reflection of the fact that I was scared to ask for more. I didn't feel worthy of being a priority. And of course these things all go back to childhood, but you can join my course for more on that.

Anywho, here are 12 affirmations to radically shift your romantic life and experience with men.

1. "Amazing love comes easily and effortlessly to me."

2. "I attract sexy, successful, emotionally responsible men into my life."

3. "I love men, and men love me."

4. "Men are a primary source of love, joy, and protection in my life."

5. "I am a a magnet for safe, secure, trustworthy men."

6. "Men are a source of consistent and dependable support in my life."

7. "My love life gets to be an emotionally mature, stable, and safe fairytale. I get to live happily ever after with the man of my dreams."

8. "Men easily and effortlessly please me, immensely."

9. "Men love to prioritize me. And I love to be prioritized by men."

10. "The men in my life feel loved, cherished, and valued by me."

11. "I am loved, cherished, and valued by men."

12. "I easily and effortlessly attract the ideal romantic partners."

13. "I am a magnet for emotionally mature, attentive, and nurturing romantic partners."

14. "The sexier the man, the more emotionally mature and nurturing he is."

15. "The sexier he is to me, the more he is devoted to loving me."

16. "The love that I want, wants me."

17. "The man that I want, wants me."

18. "I deserve to be loved by men."

Affirmations are the "thoughts of the new paradigm (or reality)". You use affirmations to affirm the new rules you are choosing to live by. If you don't understand why your affirmations are true, and if you don't believe them to be true, then you'll likely experience trouble sticking to them, to form the new beliefs, and start seeing the results. If you don't understand how to identify and release the thoughts of the paradigm you are shifting from, then you'll likely experience trouble and lots of internal conflict as you try to affirm for a new paradigm.

In order to help you with these things and more, I've created an online, digital course. It's called, "Love After Loss", and it's a 5 module course filled with transformational content. If you feel called, you can check it out here. And if you'd like to join, I'd love to serve you.

That's all I got for this post, babe.

Love love love you.

Talk to you in the next one,

NathHughes