What is low self esteem? How do we know that we have it? How does it show up in our lives? How does it impact our manifestation process?
First, let''s talk about some potential root causes of low self esteem.
It started in elementary school. When you didn't know the answer to the question that the teacher asked. Or you stuttered to read the words aloud. Or you shouted out the answer... only to find out that you were wrong.
You know those moments? Those moments where you were learning a new skill and you didn't get it perfectly right on the first try... or the third?
And you know how you started to feel badly about yourself for not performing well?
That's where low self esteem starts.
Let's keep going with the school example, although this can start in so many other aspects of our lives.
In school, when you answered a question correctly, you felt celebrated and loved and cherished. You felt like a winner. You answered correctly and your teacher responded by telling you, "Very good job! You're so good at this!" That made you feel accepted. We all want to feel accepted, especially as children. That's not necessarily where the problem started, though.
The problem began when nobody taught you how to deal with being wrong. Or making a mistake. When you answered a question correctly, you were praised and celebrated. But when you answered the question wrong, what happened? Maybe there was silence. Maybe your teachers got frustrated because you weren't understanding it quickly enough. Maybe the attention shifted from you and on to the next student who would be celebrated for having the right answer. The problem started with how that experience made you feel. When you didn't perform well, you felt rejected and ostracized. You felt like you weren't good enough to measure up. You felt like you didn't belong.
Every instance where you weren't celebrated for trying? Every instance where you weren't loved through your mistakes? That's where low self esteem grows.
Our self esteem is defined by what we believe we are capable of. When we have low self esteem, we don't believe that we are capable of positively impacting our lives, or the world. Low self esteem happens when you aren't given enough chances to build up your confidence. And when your teachers or caregivers responded negatively to your mistakes... that really hurt your desire to try.
So what happened?
As a child, you started to avoid situations where you might be wrong or make a mistake. You avoided trying new things. You avoided admitting when you were wrong or when you needed help. You developed your personality around avoiding those feelings of rejection and shame and embarrassment.
And how did that turn out?
As an adult, you're not ever really sure if what you want is coming in. You're constantly worried that things might not work out for you. You're afraid that you can't succeed in new environments (jobs, relationships, or neighborhoods).
You have low self esteem. You became an adult whose afraid to claim the manifestation of their greatest desires. You can easily imagine things not going your way. In fact, a part of you expects things not to go your way. As a result, you're afraid to really try. You're afraid to go all in. You're still avoiding.
When we have high self esteem, we are sure of ourselves. We know that we can get what we want. We assume that things are working out in our favor; and we know that we have the power to influence situations and circumstances for our benefit.
Manifestation is the deliberate co-creation of our reality. Manifestation doesn't happen when we don't believe.
More specifically, manifestation doesn't happen when we don't believe in ourselves.
For example, when we don't believe in our ability to create things of value, we have trouble manifesting sales for our businesses.
Or... When we don't believe in our ability to get our needs met, we have trouble manifesting the money or love that we need to live a fulfilled life.
When we have low self esteem, we have trouble believing that our lives are changing; or that the manifestation techniques we're implimenting are even working in the first place.
When we have low self esteem, we think:
"I can't do it."
"Nothing is working."
"I'm not good enough."
"What if it doesn't work out?"
"What if I don't make it?"
There is uncertainty in every area of our life. We doubt that we'll get what we want. We worry that things might not go our way. We fear that we'll somehow eventually be in danger with no way of saving or protecting ourselves.
With the Universal (always working, no matter what) Law of Attraction, we attract what we are a vibrational match for. We call in whatever energy we are spending a majority of our time in.
When we spend our time being worried and uncertain... we call in more worry and uncertainty.
This is why, when you're worried about whether or not your future spouse is coming in, you manifest romantic interests who aren't compatible with you or who aren't looking for anything serious. You're living in worry and it's creating experiences that perpetuate that worry. This is what they mean when they say, "like attracts like".
It's also why, when you're doubting whether or not people will be able to pay you in your business, you manifest potential clients and customers who don't book or tell you that they can't pay you. You're doubt and belief that people can't support you is creating experiences that perpetuate that doubt. Like attracts like.
That just makes sense, right?
So, our job is to break this cycle. And lucky for you, it's super easy once you understand how energy works and how to shift your own.
I've got a course that was made to help you boost your self esteem so that you can confidently call in the reality of your desire.
Inside of the "I Can & I Should" Self Esteem Boosting Mini-Course:
You'll learn how to identify the ways that low self esteem shows up in your life.
You'll get an even better understanding of why low self esteem negatively impacts your deliberate manifestation game.
You'll learn how to turn your self esteem around. You'll develop mindset tools to release the beliefs that say you aren't capable of doing, calling in, creating, or becoming more than what you already are.
You'll learn how to connect with the version of yourself that already believes in themselves. This means, you'll immediately start living in the reality where you have the self esteem that you need to achieve, accomplish, and manifest your every desire!
You'll learn how to rewire your brain so that hyping yourself up, believing in yourself, and expecting the outcomes of your desire becomes your natural way of being. That's right. When you consistently do this work of rewiring your brain to believe-in-self, your brain starts doing that work for you. Soon after, having a healthy sense of self esteem is your natural, normal way of being.
That means, you'll be thinking things like:
"I'm sure of myself."
"I'm confident in my ability to manifest my desires result."
"I expect myself to make it."
"I know that I will do well. I always do well."
And when you're thinking different thoughts, you're creating a different reality. Inside, we'll get into the nuances and crannies of this work. You'll leave feeling competent, clearer, and more confident with yourself and your power as the co-creator of this reality.
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I'm Nathallie Hughes: a mindset, manifestation coach. I help women go from feeling powerless and insecure about themselves to feeling confident and empowered enough to create emotionally fulfilling lives! I'm so happy that you've found your way into my world. You're going to love it here.
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